Ever wondered why the bereavement process takes years?
Deep within our inner most being, we know that death knocks on every door. Note that denial will push that door from us but instead prolong the process of bereavement.
Not long into the walks of my young life, I had to understand the grim realities that come with death.
But it is today that I have decided to start writing articles on it, having written a book about myself.
So why hide behind death?
It is all I know and I ever known. I realised that all my friends and family use me as a problem solver – indirectly, especially in the department of grief and bereavement.
Taking long to acknowledge death has been due to societal conditioning that death is the end.
It is this belief that formed the canopy of the huge tree that had become my stability in death.
But in understanding that even the so-called dead live a legacy, you understand that nothing truly dies. It is the seed from last year’s crop that starts the next season. If last year’s crop were dead, there will not be seeds to start the next crop. Your parent, grand parent has seeded you and you are the totality of their DNA; how can they be dead if you are alive?
Is DNA transformation part of death?
The conditioning has been put in place for a reason but after the cycles have been and gone. We are in the new cycle where death has to be accepted as part of DNA transmutation. Now not to speak ill of the “dead”, transmutation depends on the cause of death. If we know and feel someone else is responsible for the death of a loved one; closure is particularly difficult.
Closure doesn’t mean forget the beauty in the memories of your loved ones, it means assimilate the memories in your day to day life and give the deceased a high ascension. The happier you make the memories the more you kill death. Because after all, the energy of the dead has been transformed from sadness to joy.
What does the yogi know about death?
Hence many prominent yogi masters prepare their students for the occasion of their death. This preparation may include dance and singing during and after death. This practice is to send the yogi master to higher realms of existence. While weeping out of sadness can be part of the bereavement process in the path of the yogi; it quickly turns to joy as the yogi’s life would have been joyful.
One thing to remember in the bereavement process is don’t judge yourself. Death is irrational, especially if it hits unexpectedly. But as we all know by now that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience; – nothing really dies. Everything is a continuum. It is like a never-ending story from generation to generation. And your processing though unique is part of this bereavement continuum.
Know that the intelligence of the seasons is on your side. Bereavement is a winter season with endless cloudy days, sometimes accompanied by endless rain. It is this winter that finally has to succumb to the spring to give birth to a new season. Yet, the summer will charge the spring with insolence in its path as the transformer of it all. It burns the dead chuff to bring forth the fall season.
I invite you to look deeply at bereavement in a way that transforms the winter into the spring. Follow my story here as the process of transmutation leaps me into new realms. Remember though your story is unique, we are one. And it is the oneness that brings us together.